Conquering Self Talk – 5 Easy Steps

This came to me as most of my greatest thoughts do, in the shower. I could barely wash my hair quick enough to get out and write my thoughts and brain dump on this. Self-talk I feel like is somewhat of a quiet, hush-hush word. I mean not many people want to admit they talk to themselves, but we all do. Until putting myself in a position where I actively read and listen to personal development, a position where I constantly want to better myself and to help others. I really didn’t think about self-talk and self-love. I just wanted to carry on life as a “normal” person. Self-love and positive self-talk almost seemed to be a shameful thing, like you didn’t do it. You should just be a happy person.

I just wanted to do what normal people did. I went to work, I went to school, spent time with my family and friends and just kind of lived however. It wasn’t until I had my daughter and went off the deep end with feeling overwhelmed and like I was just going through the motions every day, like a servant to life, that I realized I needed a change. I had hit my low.

Getting healthy and working out was my climb back out of the dark hole I was in. It was the start to loving myself and having a positive mindset. I slowly began to dive into personal development and really read some EMPOWERING books. Books that make you realize how amazing you really are, and how you’ve been that way all along, you were just groomed to want to be normal. But what is normal?

Normal is waking up every day and feeling good about yourself, being positive in your own mind and confident. These feeling aren’t something that comes from an outside source. It has to come from within YOU! So here are my 5 EASY STEPS.

1.    PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT. I promise you, whatever you think is wrong with you, isn’t and you aren’t alone. I highly recommend the book YOU ARE A BADASS by Jen Sincero. Amazing book and great read. From there I also recommend Chalene Johnson. She has a good sense of humor and is easy to listen to. I follow her podcasts.

2.   STICKY NOTES. Yes, sticky notes. Buy a bunch of them and a pack of pretty pens. Being visual helps to convince the mind. If you want to think self-love and positive thoughts it’s easier when you see them. So at the beginning of each week, maybe Sunday night, write out a couple positive things you like about yourself. Take those sticky notes and scatter them throughout your house, in your car, at work. Hide them in fun places. SO randomly throughout the week when you come across one you are reminded of that POSITIVE THOUGHT.

3.   ACCEPT WHAT YOU CAN’T CONTROL. It is very easy to get worked up and feeling down over things that happen in life. Most often these things are out of our control to begin with. Don’t worry about them. How you react to situations is what sets the tone. Find a positive aspect in each situation and move one. Don’t dwell on it.

4.   EMBRACE YOU, DON’T COMPARE. You are you and there is no other that is exactly the same. THAT IS AMAZING! That is something to be proud of. Don’t doubt your spunk, your dorkiness, your mojo. Be you! Be proud of you and let others see the true you. Don’t compare yourself to anyone. COMPARISON KILLS. It seriously does. Even the most confident person can crumble when they lead themselves down a path of comparison.

5.   TALK TO YOURSELF OUT LOUD. I know that’s a hard one, but you have to do it. Do it in the car or when you are alone, but talk things out with yourself. Say nice things to yourself, when you do something good, when you feel good, when you achieve something tell yourself you are proud. Show yourself you are proud. TREAT YOURSELF! Even when you don’t feel good, or things don’t happen your way, learn from it. Don’t take it as the end. Find the inner strength you know you have and CONQUER IT. You are human, you feed on LOVE. But you have to give yourself that love.

Someone else’s perception of you isn’t important. It’s what you think and feel about yourself that truly matters. You are a beautiful person, the only one that needs to realize it is you. So hop to it! Get those sticky notes and start writing!